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Why 'Be Your Authentic Self' Is Bad Leadership Advice
If you are always authentic, you bring emotional chaos to the team. When we show up stressed or anxious, the mirror neurons in our colleagues' brains pick up on that, and then they feel that way too. Learn why self-translation is the smarter alternative to unfiltered authenticity.

Shari Starkey
Mar 222 min read
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Why Your Brain Goes Offline When You Get That Angry Email (And What to Do About It)
You know the feeling - that accusatory email lands in your inbox and your fingers are itching to fire back immediately. But here's what's actually happening: your brain is processing that social threat the same way it would a physical attack, and blood flow is reducing to your prefrontal cortex - the part responsible for reasoning and emotional regulation. It's not a character flaw, it's biology. Discover the neuroscience behind why we react so strongly to difficult emails an

Shari Starkey
Mar 144 min read
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Stop Wearing Multitasking Like a Badge of Honor: Why Multitasking Doesn’t Work
Multitasking isn’t a skill—it’s rapid task-switching. Neuroscience shows your brain cannot focus on two complex tasks at once, and every switch costs energy, accuracy, and mental clarity. That’s why working methodically with block scheduling leads to fewer errors, better focus, and less exhaustion.

Shari Starkey
Feb 226 min read
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SCARF Model Self‑Leadership: Lead Yourself First
The foundation of a holistic, fulfilling

Shari Starkey
Feb 122 min read
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The Real Senior Year: Why Your 'Entry-Level' Job Is Actually Advanced Coursework
You graduated. You applied everywhere. And somehow, you ended up answering phones instead of analyzing market trends. I want to start with congratulations. You took the first step. You got a job, any job, that pays the bills. If you're reading this while sitting at a reception desk, entering data, or coordinating lunch orders, I see you. And I want you to know something your career counselor probably didn't mention: you're getting an education that no classroom could provid

Shari Starkey
Feb 23 min read
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🌟 Strategize Your Weekend for a Fulfilling Life! 🌟
Weekends are a golden opportunity to recharge and align with the life you envision. Without a plan, you might find yourself in a 48-hour Netflix marathon.

Shari Starkey
Jan 302 min read
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Leadership Isolation: Why Leadership Literally Hurts (And What to Do About It)
The first day I became a leader, people stopped gathering around me. What I didn’t know then was that leadership isolation activates the same brain regions as physical pain.

Shari Starkey
Jan 242 min read
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3 Brain-Smart Ways to Make Change Actually Stick in 2026
The key is to make change feel safe, get genuine buy-in, and build habits systematically. When you do this, you're not just implementing change; you're creating a lasting transformation that people actually want to sustain.

Shari Starkey
Dec 28, 20253 min read
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Why Your Training Sessions Are Failing (And How Neuroscience Can Fix Them)
AGES Model: Attention, Generation, Emotion, and Spacing.
Think of these as the four pillars your brain needs to build lasting memories. Miss even one, and your carefully crafted training becomes expensive entertainment.

Shari Starkey
Dec 28, 20254 min read
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Why Leadership Goals Succeed or Fail: Three Teams. One Goal. Wildly Different Outcomes.
Same Goal, Three Teams, Completely Different Outcomes: What Neuroscience Taught Me

Shari Starkey
Dec 14, 20253 min read
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Building a Feedback Culture That Actually Works: What Brain Science Reveals
People respond to feedback differently based on their mindset

Shari Starkey
Dec 10, 20252 min read
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Build Trust and Influence by Wrapping It in a SCARF
Influence isn’t about authority—it’s about trust.

Shari Starkey
Dec 10, 20251 min read
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Empathy Needs Purpose to Avoid Burnout
I found myself getting wrapped up in the feelings of loss and sadness, and I was struggling to determine how to get back to the job we are paid to do. Work is a place where they can escape the second-by-second thoughts about the loss they are experiencing.

Shari Starkey
Nov 28, 20253 min read
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From Chocolate Spills to Leadership Skills: Managing Your Brain at Work
Have you ever wondered why some days drain you completely? It’s not just bad luck—it’s brain science. I learned this the hard way after a day of unexpected stress, multitasking, and one very messy dessert. Here’s what NeuroLeadership taught me. I knew this workday would be busy and different from most of my days. Earlier this year, I decided I no longer wanted my car because I work from home and travel rarely. I felt it was a waste of resources. My husband had recently retire

Shari Starkey
Nov 19, 20255 min read
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Foundations of High-Performing Teams
Why Do We Crave Teams—Yet Struggle to Build Them? We have social brains, yes —even us introverts have a craving for social interaction. We love being part of a team, something that works toward a common goal. If that is the case, why is it so hard to build cohesive teams that operate beyond what’s in it for me ? Work teams are especially difficult because not many of us get to pick the teams we are assigned to or work with. We join teams with all kinds of biases and predisp

Shari Starkey
Oct 26, 20253 min read
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Practical Tips for Leaders Who Want to Give Meaningful Gifts—Without the Stress
One of the things that I always used to struggle with during the holidays was employee gifts. I have given some cool gifts in the past, especially when my operations were small. One year, my mom, who is very crafty, offered to make personalized holiday stockings for my team and colleagues. This gift was awesome. I filled them with cute items, like the ones listed below, and put them on their desks on the day of our holiday party. I had a team of 15 people at the time. This w

Shari Starkey
Oct 21, 20253 min read
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360 Degree Leadership: Why Your Title Doesn't Matter for Real Influence (John Maxwell's Game-Changing Approach)
Spoiler alert: The best leaders don't wait for permission to lead. Discover how 360 degree leadership principles from John Maxwell can help you influence up, across, and down—regardless of your title. Learn why your position doesn't determine your leadership potential and how neuroscience proves that real influence comes from connection, not hierarchy. Whether you're an individual contributor or senior executive, these research-backed strategies will transform how you think a

Shari Starkey
Oct 17, 20254 min read
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Leading Yourself Well: Lessons From My Journey
If you’d met me in 1998, you’d have seen a young mom balancing textbooks in one arm and my toddler in the other, running mostly on coffee and stubbornness.

Shari Starkey
Oct 17, 20253 min read
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